It’s not just that pregnancy sex is not for everyone, nor is it safe.
But if you want to make sure your child gets the best possible start in life, it is still better to abstain from sex than to allow it to happen.
The best way to prevent pregnancy is not to have sex at all, says Dr Sarah Reiman, a consultant obstetrician and Gynaecologist in Sydney.
If you’re not sure if you’re ready to give birth, she says it’s important to do your own research to make the right choice.
“Sex is important, but it’s not the only thing that matters,” she says.
“You can get pregnant and still be happy and feel good.
If there is a risk of getting pregnant, you should be careful about what you do.”
Here are a few ways to make it easier for you to have safe sex.
The safe sex tip #1: avoid the condoms The most common reason women get pregnant is because they don’t wear condoms.
You’ll want to avoid any that are latex-reinforced, which is a type of polyurethane that is commonly used in condoms.
“It’s important not to wear anything that will catch fire,” says Reiman.
“If you’re going to be using a condom, you want it to be something that you can use safely.”
The condom that works best for you will depend on how long you’re using them.
“There’s a lot of research that suggests that latex condoms are probably the best option for most people,” says Dr Michelle Smith, a GP in Perth.
“But condoms are also more durable than polyuretha.”
Avoid any that come with an insert, which can catch fire and burn your hands.
“That means you want something that’s easily replaceable,” says Smith.
She says it also means condoms should be used in conjunction with a lube.
“The lube helps to keep the condoms in place and also prevents the condom from catching on fire,” she explains.
“In a very small amount of time, a condom can become a fire hazard.”
The safest way to avoid getting pregnant is to use a condom every time you have sex, but if you do this regularly, it should be up to you to decide when to use it.
“As long as you’re doing it safely, the risk of pregnancy should be minimal,” says Sally Kavanagh, a health consultant in Sydney, who says you can also consider using a vaginal ring or an L-ring if you’ve been tested positive for HIV.
“Vaginal rings can help prevent STIs, but you can’t be sure whether or not they will be able to prevent HIV,” she adds.
She also suggests using a lubricant or an anti-inflammatory gel, if you need to.
It’s a personal choice.
However, she also suggests wearing a condom with a neck or wrist strap for every time it’s used and that you also wash it with soap and water every day.
“I’d never recommend using condoms at the start of a new pregnancy, unless you have the right knowledge of the health risks involved,” she warns.
#2: use the right lubricant For women with oily skin, this may not be a problem, but for oily women, using a non-lubricant can be a risk.
“Using a latex condom with no lubricant is a good thing,” says Kavanah.
“A lot of women do have oily skin and need to be careful.
A lint can also make the condoms harder to get on, and you can try not to use the same one every time. “
Some people find that using a lint-free lube or cotton lube works well, but this is less effective than using a latex-based lubricant.”
A lint can also make the condoms harder to get on, and you can try not to use the same one every time.
“One of the biggest issues with using condoms is that they’re hard to get off,” says Jones.
“We have to get them off before the infection spreads and you’re done.”
A more effective option is to put your partner in a laminating bath, which uses a soft lather of lanolin, a substance that helps the latex stick to skin.
“These products have really been around for a while, and the best ones have come out a few years ago,” says Jaffe.
“Lanolin lubes are pretty effective and can help reduce friction.”
If you have oily or dry skin, you might also want to consider using an antihistamine.
“Many people are afraid of antihistamines,” says Della, but she also says there are some products that you don’t need to worry about.
“They’re pretty safe, but they do come with a risk,” she recommends.
If this is the case, she suggests using condoms only when you’re feeling safe, and only for people who are at high risk for pregnancy